October 29, 2020

“I’ve Lived in Brazil for 6 Years, and Here Are 10 Curious Things That Surprised Me”

Hi everyone! My name is Tatiana, and I’m 37 years old. 6 years ago, I moved from Saint Petersburg to Rio de Janeiro where I live with my Brazilian husband and 2 children. I didn’t know much about this country. before I moved besides that fact that everyone here loves soccer and that they’re famous for their Telenovelas. But now, I’m familiar with the lifestyle here and the habits of local people and I even have my own  blog about my life in Brazil . “

 

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In a typical Brazilian middle-class family, both work: husband and wife. Everyone has their own bank account, their own credit card, their own car, bought with their own money, the rent in half and even the restaurant bill, many spouses pay in half! ⠀ Women here strive for independence and this distribution of the family budget suits both. ⠀ Even after maternity leave, which is only 4 months in Brazil, women do not want to stay at home with their baby longer. Parents send the child to kindergarten or hire a nanny and the woman goes to work, takes care of herself, goes to beauty salons, gyms, meets with friends and goes shopping. ⠀ But in international families, like ours, it’s usually different! When marrying a foreign woman, a man must be ready to support her and the children, at least for a while. As it turns out in practice, not all Brazilian men are ready for this, and often a woman must either ask her husband for money even for the most necessary things, or look for at least some kind of work. ⠀ Therefore, I immediately, even before marriage, raised this issue. It was important for me to have a certain amount of money every month for personal and family expenses! ⠀ Besides, I’m not at all a feminist and I’m not at all ashamed to ask my husband for money☺️ It is quite natural for me when a man is the head of the family and the breadwinner. I am pleased when a man pays at a restaurant 🥘 and buys me gifts 🎁 Do you think a woman should work? How is it in your family: is it all in half, or is your husband the main earner? ⠀ And as in other countries, read the #familybudget_with_alien tag ⤵️ ⤵️ ⤵️ Spain @spain_me How to offend a Spanish woman at dinner in a restaurant? Turkey @janifel wives of “decent” Turks do not work, but only spend Estonia @ ponaehali.tv 9.6 k who pays in a Ukrainian-Mexican family in Tallinn? 🇪🇸🇹🇷🇪🇪🇮🇹@mamazabugrom 13,8k – all the money in my mother’s family and “OUR” Organizer fm @evgeniia_lisianskaia

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1. Brazilians understand style and fashion in their own way.

 

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Когда я сказала своей помощнице по хозяйству, что собираюсь в Россию на 1,5 месяца, первое, что она спросила: А как муж отпустит? А он ревновать не будет? ⠀ Как выяснилось, ее муж не только в путешествия одну не отпустил бы, а даже сходить развлечься с подругами. ⠀ Бразильцы в большинстве своём очень ревнивые, причём как мужчины, так и женщины! Но мужчины особенно! Да и как тут не ревновать? Бразильянки такие фигуристые😍 Да ещё и любят оголяться, демонстрировать свои достоинства – свои формы🍑! Топики, короткие шорты, обтягивающие лосины, прозрачные майки, одежда в сеточку и бикини 👙 в сочетании с женственностью, мощной сексуальной энергетикой, уверенностью, умением себя преподнести и пофлиртовать не оставят равнодушным ни одного мужчину! ⠀ У нас с мужем доверительные отношения и ревности нет места. Да и я сама не люблю испытывать это чувство, поэтому при выборе спутника жизни, одним из пунктиков был: надёжность и уверенность в человеке. ⠀ ❓А как вы относитесь к ревности? Вы ревнивы? А ваш партнёр? Как думаете, для ревности всегда нужен повод или есть патологические ревнивцы? ⠀ А #как_ревнуют_в других странах, читайте у девочек: ⠀ 🇯🇵Япония @katrin_japan 🇨🇳Китай @tatti.girl 🇮🇹 Италия @lena_manes 🇺🇸Америка @elena_in_america 🇮🇳 Индия @dasha_norge 🇪🇬 Египет @mama.batatki 🇹🇷 Турция @julia_akbas ⠀ #withkidsaroundtheworld_образильцах

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Tanned women who are not very skinny are considered to be extremely attractive in Brazil. Women prefer minimalism in terms of clothing because it’s really hot here! It’s not unusual to see a short skirt or shorts, a top with an open back, or very tight leggings. Nobody here worries about their physical shape . So, even if a woman wears plus size, she can still confidently put on tight leggings. And everyone here also wears the Havaianas flip-flops. They are worn to work, to restaurants, to the beach, and when walking around.

And some beauty habits of the locals continue to amaze me. The most stunning question I’ve probably been asked was, “How do you dye the hair on your arms?” As it turns out, here, they don’t remove the hair on arms and legs, but instead, they lighten it .

Brazilians take very good care of their teeth . I’ve never seen anyone here with yellow teeth: they brush them after every meal and in restaurants, you can even find dental floss, mouthwash, and other hygiene products.

2. Anyone can take part in Carnival.

 

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Сегодня была незабываемая ночь!!!❤️Сбылась ещё одна моя заветная мечта!!!💫 Я приняла участие в карнавальном шествии на самбодроме в Рио-де-Жанейро!!!🇧🇷💃 Это самый известный, самый масштабный и крутой карнавал в мире!!!✌🏻 ⠀ До сих пор не могу в это поверить, как будто это было не со мной!!! Это было супер мега круто!!!💥 ⠀ И я очень рада, что мой муж, который не любит ни тот район, ни самбодром, ни сам карнавал и все что с ним связано, в эту ночь был рядом со мной, поддерживал меня и фотографировал! 📷 ⠀ На фото я в карнавальном костюме. Во время шествия мы ехали по самбодрому на очень крутой машине с декорациями, держась за столб, чтобы не упасть🙈😀 и умудряясь при этом ещё и танцевать💃 ⠀ #withkidsaroundtheworld_карнавал #withkidsaroundtheworld_Рио

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Carnival is the calling card of Brazil. Some locals try to leave town during Carnival because nobody works during this period. But most people love Carnival: they prepare for it over the whole year.

The main event happens at Sambadrome. On regular days, this is an ordinary street with cars and other things, but during Carnival it is blocked and it turns into a stadium. There are many samba schools that take part in Carnival, everyone wears amazing costumes, and they sing and dance. This is a real holiday! Of course, when I saw it for the first time, I was incredibly impressed. And soon I found out that literally anyone who wants can take part in Carnival: all you have to do is buy a costume.

So, last winter my dream came true. I took part in Carnival in Rio de Janeiro. We were driving a really cool decorated car and we were dancing! I paid $130 for the costume and participation but the memories I got were priceless.

3. There is a huge contrast in the quality of life of different people in Brazil.

 

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The biggest part of the population of Rio de Janeiro lives in slums (favelas). Middle-class people and very wealthy people live in extremely expensive condominiums. It’s like there are 2 worlds or 2 planets there. Everything is different: all the buildings, the people and their lifestyle, the appearance, the way they talk, their habits, and their culture.

Favelas are 2-3 story buildings located in a very unorganized and chaotic manner. It’s dirty there. There are power lines right above your head and there is graffiti everywhere. Most people who live in favelas never finished school and there is a lot of crime. The government tries to help the people who live there by paying them an allowance, kind of like welfare.

And on the other side, there are the elite and comfortable houses. A condominium is a group of tall buildings which have one fence and a guard post. There are swimming pools, playgrounds, rooms for huge events, and other nice things like movie theaters, beauty salons, and gyms — it all depends on the price of the apartment. There are a lot of palm trees, stores, pharmacies, and supermarkets — you don’t even need to go into town. Well-educated people live here like engineers, lawyers, doctors, and actors.

It is really hard to get away from favelas, but it is possible. You have to work hard and get an education. There are different people with different lives, some of them have several jobs just to earn enough money for their children. But not all the people in favelas are ready to change their lives. Many of them don’t even want to work and they are used to living like this.

4. Almost all middle-class families have a housekeeper.

 

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When I arrived in Brazil, Gustavo already had a housekeeper. It is so accepted here. ⠀ Her name was Adriana and she had been working for her husband and his parents for several years. Hard-working and very talkative🙉😅 🙉😅 I got along well with her! Although she did not perceive me as a hostess and considered herself more important, I didn’t care! 😀 The main thing is that she cleans well and you can trust, which is already a rarity. Our disagreements began when she came, sick with the flu, with a fever and snot, to the newborn Theo. I asked Adriana to postpone cleaning for another day. Then she harbored a grudge and soon we had to leave! ⠀ The search for a new housekeeper has begun. ⠀ ✔️I decided to ask at a nearby hotel where I met Fatima. She was negligent about work: almost every time she postponed cleaning to another day, she could not come at all without warning. The tyap-blooper was removed, leaving dust and unwashed corners. I then thought, how does she work in a hotel with such an attitude to cleaning отношении As it turned out, she got a job in a hotel, worked there for a minimum period, quit and received unemployment benefits and could not work for several months. Then I was looking for a new job. In a permanent job, she was not interested in principle. ✔️ I began to ask the neighbors and a sister of one of the housekeepers was recommended to me. This sister came only once. Then she invented a bunch of reasons that she would not be able to work for us. As it turned out later, she didn’t like that I didn’t go to work, which meant that she would be supervised. And she wanted just like her sister: to come and go at what time she wants and in general to do what and how she wants (this is so very often here). ✔️I was recommended to Rafaela – a girl of 18 years old. I came from another city to work and study. I really liked her and we talked like girlfriends. I closed my eyes to her constant lateness (although she lived nearby) and so on. Once Rafaela asked to go to visit her family for a month and disappeared. After waiting 3 months, I went again in search. ✔️And now I found Fabiana! Responsible, pleasant, hard-working. With plans for life and she really needs money, which is immediately felt in the attitude of a person to work! — There were also cases of theft of things and money from the husband and his parents With plans for life and she really needs money, which is immediately felt in the attitude of a person to work! — There were also cases of theft of things and money from the husband and his parents With plans for life and she really needs money, which is immediately felt in the attitude of a person to work! — There were also cases of theft of things and money from the husband and his parents

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Almost all of the staff at the condominiums are people who live in the poor districts. In many families, there is a housekeeper who comes once or twice a week and helps them with the cleaning. If a girl comes more than 2 times a week, she needs to work legally. It is pretty hard to get this type of job and you are really lucky if you do. But there is a paradox: it’s hard to find a housekeeper too – many people are just too lazy to work.

When I was looking for a housekeeper, I had the same problem. One girl simply could not show up when she was supposed to, and if she did some cleaning, she did a poor job. Another one didn’t like cleaning when I was around, and she could come up with thousands of reasons why she couldn’t work. The third girl didn’t like it when I asked her to reschedule the cleaning because she tried to come when she was sick and I had just had a baby. After several months I finally found a responsible woman who does her job really well and doesn’t disappear.

5. Everyone wears hats and jackets when it’s 70 ° F.

 

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This morning in the elevator a neighbor said to me: -It’s so cold, so cold, and the rain and wind are icy! Just a nightmare! And she herself is in a jacket, boots and wrapped in a warm scarf, and a huge umbrella in her hand. And I stand and think that in her concept it is “very cold” 🤔. … I went out into the street – fresh, cool, dripping with a light rain! Well, yes, not heat! I am in a regular sweater with long sleeves, sweatpants and sneakers. On the thermometer in the morning it was +18, in the afternoon until +22. In general, a typical St. Petersburg summer! … What is winter for Brazilians: ❄️Starts on June 21 ❄️The temperature ranges from +20 to +30 in Rio, in southern Brazil it can drop to 0, and even -2😱 ❄️ there is silence on the beach, even if the sun is +30, winter is winter 😁. ❄️ the pools are all closed ❄️ and in general there are fewer people walking on the streets ❄️ a bunch of boots, boots, warm jackets and coats appear in shops, and even shapki🙈 ❄️pochemu-all so surprised that I morznu (and sometimes takoe😐)! They think that if I am from Russia, and if I survive at -20, then for me at +18, and even more so at +22, it should be hot in general 😄. … … And as for you, is +22 warm or cold? … … … #ig_brazil_ #rioilove #rio #brazil #rio #riojaneiro #winter2017 #winter summer #brasil #brazil #ig_riodejaneiro #south america #cold #travelblog #travel blogger #life abroad #madrussians #overseas #withkidsaroundtheworld_image

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The coldest month in Brazil is July. Well, it’s not really cold: in Rio, the temperature hovers from 62 ° F at night to 70 ° F during the day. It’s also pretty rainy. Once I was in the elevator when I met my neighbor who was really worried about the terrible cold outside: she was wearing a parka, a scarf, and boots. The temperature was 64 ° F!

It’s funny that even if the temperature is around  86 ° F, the beach will still be empty: it’s winter after all. There are fewer people in the streets, and in stores, you can buy warm coats and even hats. I actually like the local winter and I look forward to it: I can enjoy nature and I can walk outside without being extremely hot.

But in the southern part of the country, closer to Argentina, winters are sometimes quite cold: the temperature can be as low as 23 ° F, and there is even some snow.

6. Some movie theaters cater to very small children.

 

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Theo and Leo and I visited the cinema yesterday. Yes, in the cinema with a 9 month old baby !!! 😀 In Brazil, in many cities, it is possible! It began a few years ago, spontaneously, when young mothers in Sao Paulo agreed on an Internet forum to go to the cinema in an organized way for an afternoon session with babies. Subsequently, the organization “CineMaterna” (Mother’s Cinema) appeared – when in ordinary cinemas at a certain time they organize screenings of films for mothers and fathers with children up to 18 months old. They show different films from the current repertoire. These screenings are usually sponsored by manufacturers of children’s products. It looks like this: a full cinema of mothers with babies watching a movie, babies can cry, run around the cinema, crawl, scream, play. It often happens that one baby will cry and pick up the rest On the floor below in front of the screen is a children’s rug with toys, on the side there is a changing table with diapers and wet wipes. The ticket is bought only by the mother, the children do not pay and it costs 20real ($ 6). But if you arrive in advance, you can go for free. … Have you ever gone to the cinema with a baby? … … #brazil #rio #riodejaneiro #vkinosrebenkom #movie #rj #rio #riolife #cinematerna #travelblogger #travelblog #travelblog #travelmama #travelblogger #riodejaneiro #ig_brazil_ with #ig_babyestylerasilbabyrasil’rasil’razil’razil’babyrazilirazil’razil_baby # Have you ever gone to the cinema with a baby? … … Brazil Have you ever gone to the cinema with a baby? … … #brazil #rio #riodejaneiro #vkinosrebenkom #movie #rj #rio #riolife #cinematerna #travelblogger #travelblog #travelblog #travelmama #travelblogger #riodejaneiro #ig_brazil_ with #ig_babyestylerasilbabyrasil’rasil’razil’razil’babyrazilirazil’razil_baby #

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This became possible several years ago when young mothers from São Paulo agreed in an online forum to go to the movies with their babies. Now, you can come to the movie theater with a child that is younger the age of 18 months. They show different movies and usually, these events are sponsored by companies that make products for children.

This is what it looks like:  the theater is full of mothers with children, the adults watch the movie, and children can cry, run around, crawl, scream, and play . Often, when one child starts crying, all the other children do the same. On the floor, next to the screen, there are children’s toys and a special table where you can change your child’s diaper.

7. There are no trains in Brazil.

 

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I turned 37 today! 🎂 And the awl is still there! 🤪 Do you recognize this mountain? ⠀ I constantly receive so many pleasant messages in Direct and read in the comments under the posts! I am very pleased that you like my blog and that you love to read me !!! Thank you very much for such beautiful and warm words !!! This is very valuable to me !!! ❤️ ⠀ Therefore, in honor of my birthday, I want to make you pleasant too – send beautiful postcards from sunny Brazil☀️ ⠀ 💃Tell about me on your page and what you like about my blog and do not forget to put an active one a link to my page (in a post) 💃Put the hashtag #withkidsaroundtheworld_sfs 💃The photo can be any, mine or yours ⠀ Anyone who fulfills these conditions during the next week, by September 10, will receive a postcard! ✈️ ⠀ In addition, I will send to the most creative a package with a surprise!

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It is strange that a country as large as  Brazil doesn’t have trains. The distances between the cities are quite far, but you can only use cars, planes, or buses. The best way to travel is by plane, but it is really expensive so few people can afford it.

And there are a lot of places you can see: national parks, canyons, waterfalls, and many other things. If you want to travel, you will want to be able to speak Portuguese at least somehow because most Brazilians don’t speak English.

8. Warm hugs are for friends and for strangers.

 

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It’s not safe to drive in Rio! Especially if you don’t know the city well! ⠀ 🔸 They can kill. If you accidentally get lost, you can easily find yourself near the favela, or even drive inside. I have heard many cases when bandits living in these favelas started shooting at the car, not knowing if it was a tourist or a spy. In some favelas, trafficanches see danger in any outsider. ⠀ 🔸Arasto (arrastão). This type of robbery is very popular in Rio, especially in the tunnels. At rush hour, a group of armed bandits на on motorcycles ряда rides between the rows of cars standing in a traffic jam and take turns robbing the drivers, taking their phones and money. ⠀ 🔸 There is a danger of getting into a gunfight. These are mainly Linha amarela – one of the main city roads, Linha vermelha – the road to the airport and Avenida Brasil. They pass through the favelas where bandits often divide spheres of influence and fight the police. ⠀ 🔸Can steal a car with a weapon. Especially in the evening, for example, when the driver stops at a traffic light, a bandit drives up with a pistol, drives everyone out of the car and drives away. There were cases when the parents did not have time to unfasten the child and drove the car along with the child. Therefore, many do not fasten their children with seat belts. For the same reason, in Brazil it is allowed to dim the windows of cars and at night drivers do not stop at a red light. ⠀ Therefore, for now, I do not risk getting behind the wheel and it is safer for me to take a taxi, Uber or BRT. ⠀ # withkidsaroundtheworld_Rio when the parents did not have time to unfasten the child and drove the car along with the child. Therefore, many do not fasten their children with seat belts. For the same reason, in Brazil it is allowed to dim the windows of cars and at night drivers do not stop at a red light. ⠀ Therefore, for now, I do not risk getting behind the wheel and it is safer for me to take a taxi, Uber or BRT. ⠀ # withkidsaroundtheworld_Rio when the parents did not have time to unfasten the child and drove the car along with the child. Therefore, many do not fasten their children with seat belts. For the same reason, in Brazil it is allowed to dim the windows of cars and at night drivers do not stop at a red light. ⠀ Therefore, for now, I do not risk getting behind the wheel and it is safer for me to take a taxi, Uber or BRT. ⠀ # withkidsaroundtheworld_Rio

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Brazilians have one habit I can’t get used to: when they meet you or say goodbye, they kiss each other on both cheeks. More than that, they do it with friends and with people they meet for the first time. Both men and women kiss, and it’s just a way of greeting people, there is nothing bad about it. Brazilians love this tradition that can sometimes take several minutes while they kiss 20-30 people.

9. Some unusual things about everyday life

 

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Что меня поразило в приятном смысле в Бразилии! ⠀ Это те мелочи, которые значительно упрощают жизнь простых людей, улучшают настроение и экономят время! ⠀ Помимо пандусов, лифтов и специальных очередей для беременных и пожилых, есть ещё много всего, без чего я уже жизни не представляю:) ⠀ 🌀Бесплатные пакеты в супермаркетах. На них бразильцы точно не экономят!😅 Даже любят один пакет засунуть в другой, чтобы прочнее было:) ⠀ 🌀Почти во магазинах, будь то одежда, игрушки, или сладости, вам предложат упаковать товар в подарочную упаковку. Вас обязательно спросят: «Presente?» (Подарок?). Очень удобно, не надо бегать в поисках упаковки подарков. ⠀ 🌀Во многих ресторанах в уборных есть зубная нить и жидкость для полоскания рта. Бразильцы чистят зубы после каждого приема пищи. ⠀ 🌀Во всех автобусах БРТ (выделенная автобусная линия, типа метро) прямо на поручнях установлены устройства для зарядки телефона. Подключается через разъём USB. ⠀ 🌀В общественных местах, парках, торговых центрах и тд стоят кулеры с питьевой водой (бебедоры). Правда пить из них я пока не научилась, там как струя направлена вверх, но к бразильцев получается))) ⠀ 🌀В парках установлены подставки с рулонами одноразовых пакетов, чтобы убирать на собаками💩 ⠀ 🌀Почти во всех крупных торговых центрах есть семейные комнаты (Espaço Família – Family Room), где можно поменять подгузник, покормить малыша, и даже арендовать коляску бесплатно (помните видео?) ⠀ 🌀В семейных клиниках лежат бесплатные презервативы. ⠀ 🌀В метро есть специальный вагон только для женщин. В часы-пик мужчинам туда нельзя⛔️ ⠀ 🌀В овощном отделе супермаркета есть раковина, где можно помыть руки с мылом. ⠀ 🌀А в ресторанах обязательно стоит банка с гелеобразным спиртом для того, чтобы посетители могли продезинфицировать руки! ⠀ В вашем городе/стране есть ли что-то из этого?

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  • People in Rio have a relaxed lifestyle. For example, if you bought a washing machine and want to have it delivered, you might not get it in time and nobody will even warn you. If you decided to redecorate your house, be ready that it will take 2-3 times longer and the quality will probably be worse than you expect. In the South, the situation is different: there the people are way more responsible.
  • In Brazil, it’s almost impossible to return a product to a store. If you buy something (clothing, shoes, devices, bags, and so on), it will be really hard to return it and get a refund. Many stores just won’t do it. However, you can exchange it for a new product instead of yours within a month.
  • There is no hot water in the kitchen. Because of this, there is always a feeling that you didn’t wash the dishes perfectly. Get a dishwasher.
  • Expensive and poor internet connection. Sometimes there is no internet connection for several days, especially if it is rainy outside.
  • They add a lot of ice to beverages. Always! The drinks here are not just cold, they are freezing!
  • 10. People here really do love soccer and surfing.

Everyone here loves soccer. They watch all the games, they are proud of their team, and soccer players here are national heroes. When there is some big tournament, everyday life stops and all the attention is focused on the game. Several hours before the game of the national team, Brazilians dress in yellow T-shirts and start watching TV. It doesn’t matter where they are: at a hospital, in a taxi, at a diner, or just out in the street.

Some companies even give their employees the day off if there is an important game. And, everyone plays soccer: the people who live in favelas (by the way, many famous players grew up there) and the middle-class people.

Another sport they love is surfing. I would even say that it is just as popular as soccer and you can see a lot of people surfing in the sea.