This Is What Toxic Femininity Looks Like: 20 People Share Examples Of Toxic Behavior

The internet has been obsessed with talking about toxic masculinity but hardly ever recognizes that toxic femininity exists too. However, the recent Johnny Depp court case has sparked a lot of debate about toxic femininity and now many people are talking openly about it.

Toxic femininity is as bad as toxic masculinity and needs to be discussed more. It arises from some type of jealousy or from a need to feel superior to other women or men. Whatever the reason be, it’s quite unhealthy for the people involved.

There are many cases of toxic femininity out there and people are addressing them in this online thread. The Reddit post prompted people to share ‘some examples of toxic femininity’, and many folks delivered. Scroll below to read some of the answers.

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#1

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Using your period as an excuse to be physically or emotionally abusive.

Turns out my mom was just a b**ch, not PMS’ing.

#2

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I hate the whole “oh if you hold a baby you’ll want one” or “baby smell is the best” or my least favorite “you’re so good with kids, you’ll be a great mom!” comments. NOT EVERY WOMAN WANTS TO BE A MOM, NOT EVERY WOMAN EVEN LIKES KIDS! The fact that I’m a decent human being to my friends kids doesn’t mean I’ll be a good mom. You know what I love? My current lifestyle. I didn’t work today and you know what I did? I sat in bed, ate chocolate, watched Ice Cold Killers, and now I’m gonna take a nice long nap at 3 in the afternoon! How in gods name whould a child enhance my life in any way? I’m 26 and the constant barrage of “you’re not getting any younger” comments are starting to get under my skin.

#3

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Thinking that being in a romantic relationship/marriage or being able to have children makes you inherently better than women who aren’t.

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Defaulting to the female parental figure in all things child-related.

I worked an hour’s drive away, my husband worked 15 minutes away. We clearly listed him as the primary emergency contact on all school forms and even noted that he was closest. We told the kid to specifically request they call Dad.

Every time there was an emergency, guess who got called? I would then instruct them to call my husband because my leaving work to take the kid home means they have to deal with an extra hour or so of projectile vomit (or whatever).

We ended up just listing his number as mine.

Stupid!

#5

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Karens are a prime example. They show peak entitlement found more often in women then men. Everything must be done for them. They are a mother or they’re a “struggling” woman who should be given everything she wants.

There’s also abusive women. Abusive men will hit you, abusive women will give you several mental and emotional disorders and claim you made it all up while you suffer alone in silence. I know this from personal experience having an abusive biological father and step mother.

If a woman does hit you, you aren’t allowed to hit back. If you defend yourself you’re the aggressor because… men big?

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Believing that its a man’s job to impress her when she’s dating. If you like someone ACT AS THOUGH YOU LIKE THEM. Dating is an equal exchange of time and emotional labour, if she feels like she needs further financial compensation beyond that (paying for the food/show/whatever it is) then maybe she don’t like him enough.

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The “I get along with guys better.”

I cringe because I used to be like this. Don’t discount a whole gender. There’s a lot of awesome women out there, find them and befriend them! Not all guys are awesome so why assume all women aren’t?

#8

“No man is ever allowed to hit a woman, in any circumstances.”

Uh, hell no. I’m a woman, but I fully expect that if I started punching a guy or trying to k**l him, that he would be well within his rights to give me a slap. Being female doesn’t mean you get to start physical fights and face no repercussions.

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“all other girls are b*tches”

If you’re a girl and think that, that’s a you problem

#10

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Assuming men are never the victim of physical abuse or intimidation.

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Girls who hit guys because they know the guy won’t hit them back

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Putting women down for choosing not to have children. As if the only reason we were put on earth was to be baby makers

#13

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Fake domestic violence or r*pe accusations.

This is why I feel like the phrase “every woman should be believed” should be changed to “every woman should be taken seriously.”

Not every woman is truthful, so we can’t go in with the mindset of “oh, she’s definitely innocent.” At the same time, we can’t let cases of false accusations prevent us from taking a case seriously because “she may be another liar.”

Sadly, people are bound to make decisions on who’s innocent and who’s not without even watching the trial.

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Amber Heard

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Being all “Claire!! Hiiiii it’s soo good to seee youuuuu oh my goooodddd!!!!” in that obnoxious tone of voice, to every single woman in the group, then turning around and talking the most nasty gossip you can behind their backs or purposely being snaky to the group. This is so toxic, if you don’t like the people you spend time with then drop the mask and stop shoving “positive vibes” down their throats.

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Girls who start an argument or fight with a stranger and expect their bf/husband/partner to be the one to handle the fall out.

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I see a lot of body positive women that s**t on my girlfriend for working out and keeping her body hairless. They always say she should be more loving of her body and embrace her body hair.

It’s annoying. She does it cause SHE likes it. She goes to the gym and does deadlifts cause it empowers her and makes her feel AMAZING. Like, we all have different ideals and visions for our life. And after moisturizing herself and shaving she likes to rub her legs together like a cricket, and nobody should be taking that little slice of heaven from her.

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Expecting all the affection and love in the world from their boyfriends and never showing a glimpse of it towards them. Men DO have feelings you know?

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The quote “If you can’t handle me at my worst, you don’t deserve me at my best.”

Basically expecting a partner to put up with your drama as proof of them actually being into you/making them jump through hoops to prove they’re into you.